The topic of communication is a loaded one. So many different aspects of communication come to mind: speaking, acting, and writing are all means of communicating. Of course, at The Write Journey, we actively teach communication through writing, but many people don’t realize that we also focus on teaching and modeling quality verbal communication. In fact, this is one of our Core Values:
● Communication with Civility-The Write Journey educators model and teach communication skills, including voicing ideas responsibly and listening actively.
As students discuss their novels together in class, they observe and experience quality verbal communication. Think about it. Where can you go or with whom can you meet where you feel safe sharing your ideas, experiences, beliefs, knowledge, and understanding of a topic? Sadly, few places exist that offer honest conversation and dialogue. Imagine how important it is for students to be able to practice communication skills with their peers; this is preparation for real life! That cannot be overstated. As responsible parents and teachers, we do well to provide opportunities for lively discussions in our homes and classrooms. We practice in these ways:
● Discuss a book in depth. Talking about the characters is very safe; whereas talking about one’s personal life may be intimidating.
● Learn to be great question askers. This skill requires practice. The more we practice asking quality questions, the better we develop the skill.
● Model active listening. This means asking clarifying questions and repeating information to make sure we understand others accurately.
● Practice disagreeing and giving reasons why, without becoming emotional. Learn to validate other ideas and perspectives. Make an effort to NOT feel personally attacked when someone disagrees with you.
● Communicate to gain understanding, not simply to demand agreement. In real life, we must often agree to disagree. Fighting with our words rarely, if ever, accomplishes anything positive.
I hope you keep working on engaging in “Communication with Civility” in your homes and classes. Of course your children are always welcome in our Reading and Writing Classes where we practice learning how to be great communicators both verbally and in writing.