Kris Speaks Life

Creativity in the Ordinary Areas of Everyday Life

This month we are exploring creativity. I don’t know about you, but some of us (myself included) often don’t “feel like” creative people. Perhaps that’s because we compare ourselves to poets, artists, musicians, decoractors . . . you know the truly creative individuals. Then there’s me: plain Jane, Miss Practical, dutiful, simple . . . just not creative. Or so I thought. Then I read a book: The Hidden Art of Homemaking by Edith Schaeffer. Now I see creativity through a different lens.

Mrs. Schcaffer showed me that:

I AM CREATIVE . . . because I am created in the image of God!

I’m not sure I should comment further. Just stop and ponder that TRUTH. Those are words of life, being spoken into you and over you. I don’t need to know you to know that YOU ARE CREATIVE.

If you agree that this is TRUE, I invite you to take 5 minutes or less to send me a message at krisspeakslife@gmail.com, and tell me in two or three sentences how YOU - as an image bearer of God - are creative. This is a challenge to affirm your creativity. Feed it so it will grow: little by little, blessing your family and your community.

When you send me a message, I’ll add your name to a drawing to win a free copy of The Hidden Art of Homemaking; then you’ll have a great book to add to your summer reading. You’ll learn how “‘hidden art’ is the art found in the ordinary areas of everyday life.”

Speaking life,
Kris krisspeakslife@gmail.com

WHAT DO I HEAR WHEN I LISTEN?

Spring is officially here. Spring often speaks of “new life”, “longer days”, “warmer temperatures”, and “planting”.

What does spring speak to you of? Whatever it is, take a few minutes to validate it. Perhaps you’ll even take a few minutes to write down your thoughts and feelings about spring. That may sound like a silly proposition, but it’s not. Your first response may be to tell yourself:

  •  My life is so busy, I don’t have 15 minutes to write about how I feel or what I think.

  •  It seems silly, or juvenile, or wasteful, or . . . (fill in the blank) to write about “What spring speaks to me of”.

 I have no clue what “spring speaks to me of”. (Thanks for your honesty!)

And while I place zero amount of pressure upon anyone to do so, I’m wondering if there might be something therapeutic in saying, “Okay. I’m going to sit down for 15 minutes and write down my reflections about ‘What spring speaks to me of.’” If you’d like an audience to share your thoughts with, I’d be honored to listen. Just listen. Not judge. Just listen.

Spring speaks to me of warmer days, but the reality is, today, as I write this piece (3/12), I’m sitting here in Virginia looking out the window at a snowstorm! It’s beautiful, but it’s nowhere near “warmer days”. Last week on the other hand did usher in warmer days. So, spring reminds me that each day brings surprises of its own, and I do well to welcome the surprises and not impatiently wish the snowstorms away, because those warmer days lead to “hot” days – melting hot. And then I’ll be anticipating the cooler days of fall.

So, on this almost spring day, I am grateful:

  •  For seasons that change

  •  For feeling warm and feeling cool

  •  For some things to come to an end, so new things can sprout up

  •  For 15 minutes to still my body and let my mind reflect

    Here’s to spring. Speaking life,
    Kris krisspeakslife@gmail.com

LEARNING TO LOVE YOUR FAMILY WELL

During the month of February we often find ourselves thinking about relationships. We might even go the extra mile to remind our loved ones how much we love them. We might enjoy date nights, sweet treats, fun cards, cute pink and red crafts and decorations. Celebrating brings joy. I hope you have felt extra loved and affirmed this month, and I hope you have enjoyed showering others with small acts of love and kindness. It makes me smile to think of all the ways families have fun expressing love and building strong relationships.

At The Write Journey, we intentionally work to foster relationships too. We understand the road you are on: ups and downs, bumps and cracks, high speeds and slow spots, blind curves and unexpected road closures . . . it’s an adventure. I wonder how we can speak life into you and into your relationships.

  •  Who I am matters more than what I do.

  •  Souls live forever, so I give myself permission to invest resources - time, energy, money, words, hugs, etc. - into the souls that have been entrusted to me for a season.

  •  I choose to be grateful for friends and family, who bless me/us in many little ways and even a few gigantic ways.

  •  Even on days/moments when I feel overwhelmed, I can slow down enough to recharge so I have what it takes to love well.

  •  Today I will look for opportunities to hold hands, give hugs, smile, listen, and enjoy life’s little pleasures . . . with others.

After the “school years” have come and gone, the relationships will remain. There is a real temptation to fill our lives with To Do lists, lesson plans, keeping up with . . . fill in the blank. So when you’re not sure when to say “yes” and when to say “Thanks, but not this time”, perhaps taking a few seconds to reflect on relationships will help tip the scale one way or the other.

Let me know how we can grow in relationship with you and your family as we put one foot in front of the other . . . together.

Speaking life, Kris

NEW BEGINNINGS AND REAL LIFE

New Beginnings. That’s what we get to ponder and plan for as we enter 2022. Do you, like me, ever feel a bit (or a lot) anxious about GOOD things in your life? That’s where I find myself at the beginning of this new year: excited and anxious all at the same time. So I get to take a deep breath, find a quiet space, and make some choices about this new year. To quell the anxiety and manage the excitement, I tell myself:

  • Because He loves me, my Creator has wonderful plans for me and my family this year.

  • This year I will choose to find the little joys in each and every day, being careful not to let them go unnoticed in the midst of the busyness.

  • If I don’t get everything done today (or this year), there is always tomorrow (or next year). I cancel the panic.

  • People and relationships matter the most, so I will choose

    •  To engage

    • To listen

    •  To serve

    • To forgive

  •  A little organization goes a long way, so I will pick three ways each day to bring order to our household. (Make a simple list of only 3 things each day.) I can’t do it all, but I can be intentional about doing something.

  •  When my plans get interrupted (and they will - every day), I will whisper “Thank You” for something . . . anything (fresh snow, a giggle, fresh baked cookies, etc.).

  •  I believe this year holds some of the best memories ever for our family.

  •  This year I cancel negativity and declare LIFE.

    As I enjoy an extended stay with my grandchildren, I am reminded of the wonderful challenges of family life with littles. Even though I adore these little blessings as much as (if not more than) my own four children, I regularly find myself exhausted and completely spent at the end of the day. These days remind me of days gone by. They remind me of my young friends who are in the thick of it: Every. Single. Day. Can I just say, “It IS worth it. You WILL get through. Memories of the hard times will fade.”New beginnings also reminds me of a quote from Anne of Green Gables: “Tomorrow is always fresh with no mistakes in it...well with no mistakes in it yet.” Yep. That’s real life.

We will make mistakes, and our children will make mistakes, but tomorrow is a new day, with no mistakes in it. Thank God for New Beginnings.

Speaking life, Kris

I’d love to hear from you: krisspeaklife@gmail.com.

HOLIDAY FUN: WE CALL IT SCHOOL

Years ago, as a parent, and now, as a grandparent, I love the opportunity to create an educational environment in my home. And what better time of year to do that than the holidays?!

Since the time I began teaching our classes (over 17 years ago), we have always wrapped up our final class days just prior to Thanksgiving. Then we begin again in January of the new year. But for two months we take a break from many of the school routines that have kept us in check over the fall months. Perhaps you feel the need for some change in your routines. Or maybe you’re just settling into your routines, and that’s fine too. Whichever the case for you, now is a time to create memories and give yourself and your children permission to think outside the box. What might that look like? You tell me. I know you and your children have great ideas and opportunities to create, engage, enjoy, give . . . all the while learning. Here are some ideas to get your creative mental ball rolling:

  • Baking, building, sewing - all these (and more) require reading and mathematics

  • Painting, sketching, coloring, stitching - all these (and more) develop fine motor skills and an eye for beauty

  • Singing, playing instruments, listening to holiday tunes - all these (and more) lift spirits and energize or relax bodies

  • Decorating, making gifts, playing with friends/siblings, cleaning and organizing, serving the needy - all these (and more) promote productive life skills and moral character.

For a few weeks in late November and December, my children and I enjoyed a later start to our school days, and we focused on holiday themed reading and writing along with a math lesson. That simple plan left hours each day for creative learning and memory making. I know how heavy all of life can feel, especially the years of overseeing the educational needs of young (even teen) children. Trust me when I say it’s okay to take it easy for a bit. Education includes so much more than formal curriculum. It includes new experiences and opportunities to enjoy life and serve others.

Whatever your family beliefs, the holiday season holds deep meaning and abundant opportunities for you to connect with each other in meaningful ways, imparting your values to your children. We all know this season is not about the gifts, but we sometimes get caught up in the demands and expectations anyway. Remember to speak life to yourself, your family, your friends, and even strangers.

  •  Let’s take some time to write down ideas about how we can enjoy this season.

  •  Let’s invest in relationships before spending on purchases.

  •  As we make plans, we will hold our plans loosely knowing that flexibility often limits stress.

  • We’ll model joy as we reflect on the true meaning of the holiday season, and we’ll recognize and affirm our families as they do the same . . . in small ways.

  • We’ll end each day thankful for something and/or someone.

That’s a good start. Perhaps you’ll add to the list of affirmations and choose what speaks life into your soul. Then you’ll be ready to jump into the holiday season with both feet.

Speaking life, Kris

Written by: Kris Cordell